You have to put yourself in the centre of your choice to make the right one

No.4 Alcazar, 24 Jan 2017

This is Alcazar, Light Being.

The wonders of the world never cease to amaze, not just physical structures, those made by God and those made by men, but the inhabitants of earth.  And here I am talking of the human because the human is a wonder of the world.

There is so much potential in humans, so much more than we give humans credit for.  Every single human has huge potential and every single human also has choice.  Free choice.  Each human is handed a deck of cards, different circumstances, different attributes, different skills.  No one human is identical to another.  And this creates an illusion of lack of choice, but it’s in the human’s interest to look for choice in every single thing, because there is a choice in every single thing.

Yes, some people are faced with different choices.  To the rich man choosing between a yacht and an aeroplane to buy would perhaps be a nice choice many of us would like to have.  It can often be difficult to recognise that in every situation there is a choice, especially when the situation is one that you do not believe is of your choosing.  But then the choice is about how we look at the situation, how we respond to the situation, and how we impact on and change the situation.

Yes, I said change, because no matter how hopeless the situation, you have the ability to change it.  But, I’m not going to talk today about what would be a wise decision and what would be an unwise decision.  Because all decisions are yours to make and it’s for you to weigh up the relevant factors and decide what’s important to you.  So this isn’t about making wise decisions and informed choices.  This is about recognising the choice you have.  Often external situations can seem static and can seem imposed from outside upon you.  And those situations present the greatest challenges for seeing that there is a choice in everything.

So when you find yourself in a situation, it might be a relationship that isn’t as you would like it to be, it might be your standing and your place amongst your friends, it might be that you have a certain reputation and you’re not happy with that. In all of those situations you have a choice. And the first thing to do when looking at making a choice, and I say explicitly, when making a choice, because so many people make a choice by default, and  what I’m talking about here is making a conscious choice.

What you need to do, and this might sound selfish, you need to put yourself in the centre of that choice.  And then, in an imaginary circle drawn around you, place all the other factors, that either impact on the choice you might make or in fact might be affected by the choice you might make. You might put money in there, in that circle, you might put your husband, you might put your children.  And this is where confusion can set in and why so many people end up making choices by default.  Because when you look at all those factors in that circle, there is often so many, each with seemingly different priorities.  So the human is almost like a dodgem car being bumped from one factor into another factor.  Being bashed around this imaginary circle.  Not even actually trying to please anyone but not actually making a choice, but allowing themselves to be blown in all and every direction.

And this is why it’s important that choices are made and that default choices are not made.  And if you choose to ignore a situation or to do nothing about it, you are in effect making a default choice.

So here’s what to do.  You stand at the centre of that imaginary circle, and you watch, you think, you be silent and quiet, in the moment.  As you look down upon all these factors – moving from left to right, side to side, almost as if each has their own individual control centre, moving about this circle around you, bumping into each other, going off in different directions – you might want to identify a few of them and place an imaginary tag on them.

And just watch without judgment and without to control.  Just watch, as the factors move around your imaginary circle. Now you’ve had time to observe them in a very calm and detached manner I ask you, and again this calls upon great imagination, I ask you to scoop up with your hands those factors that you can happily pick up.  Because your hands are a limited size and there are many factors, you cannot pick up everything.

So pick up and hold in front of you those factors that are important to you.  And the interesting thing is, you can pick them up without identifying them.  Imagine that your hands are like a sieve.  So as you sieve through the circle those factors that aren’t important simply go through the holes in the sieve, leaving those that remain in the sieve.  And once you’ve got those selected factors  – and again, rather like a magician, you needn’t actually be showing your audience or showing yourself these factors at this time – lay them out around the circle, around the outer edges of the circle, upside down if you like.

And then close your eyes.  And again, this is using your imagination and breathing deeply, almost in a meditation type state.  Pick out the most important factor with your finger.  And then turn that over.  And what do you see?  Hold it up. What you might well see, and there is no right and wrong to what you might see, what you might well see is your own reflection.  You might say that doesn’t help and I could have skipped all of this and simply told you: when looking to make a decision, look to yourself, look in the mirror, ask yourself what is important to you.  And I could have done and that would have been a lot quicker!

But for a moment imagine you are back standing in the centre of your circle, and you’ve picked your factor, and you’ve realised it’s actually you looking back at you.  And then look down at the other factors, the ones you didn’t pick. And of the ones you did pick, put those back into the circle.  And using your mind’s eye and your imagination, watch them.  Non judgementally and without controlling them.  And watch how different they are.  Once you decide that you are the centre of your decisions you see that the other factors in the circle no longer go off at different speeds and in different directions, no longer bump into each other.  It’s as if they are working in harmony.  As if all of a sudden the chaos that was once there is transformed into a super efficient network.  And in a way that’s exactly what has happened.

Because you, instead of allowing yourself to be battered by everything going on around you, have taken a moment to just Be.  To connect with yourself.  To be aware of all that is going on, but to not be affected by it, and to avoid the urge to judge it.  And you have, rather unexpectedly perhaps, informed yourself that you are the priority in the decision.  And as a result of that everything around you appears to cooperate.

Now of course this was an imaginary circle.  And this was an exercise requiring a great deal of imagination.  But of course, there is a metaphor within what I have described.  And I can tell you, with absolute certainty, that if you put yourself at the centre of all situations where there is a choice, (and I talked about that briefly before, that there is often a choice even where we are not aware that there is a choice) then by putting yourself at the centre of it, I tell you, you are not being selfish.  You are creating a set of circumstances that work not only in your favour but in favour of the other factors you are wanting to take into account.

I believe you might need to read this a few times, and having read it a few times you might need to try out this method a few times, and until such time I would ask you to withhold your judgment.  So I tell you, try it for yourself, try it a few times, and then you can decide whether or not it actually makes a difference and whether or not what I’m saying is right or not.

I thank you and I greet you, this is Alcazar, Light Being.